Our sexuality is a large part of our identity. Many clients come into therapy because they are confused or worried about their sexuality. They may be scared about being judged by others. Other clients may have worries about their sexual performance/preferences. Sexuality insecurities can cause depression, low self esteem , anxiety and shame.
How can counselling help?In counselling sessions we will explore your thoughts and feelings around sexuality. Accepting and embracing who you are - whether you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, transvestite or are experiencing concerns about your sexual performance/preferences - is a journey to self fulfillment and the first step is to be honest with yourself . Many people find it very difficult to accept their sexuality. They may experience loneliness, confusion, anger, self loathing, anxiety, denial , shame and low self esteem. But you are not alone - there are many people all over the world who have experienced these feelings and , through therapy and counselling, have learnt to accept and embrace themselves for the person they truly are. No human being deserves to live their life pretending not to be their true self.
In counselling sessions we will
- face your fears with courage and honesty
- challenge any negative thought patterns/beliefs about yourself and others
- help you to accept what you can control (eg your response to a stressful event) and what you can't control (eg the behavior of others)
- learn to self soothe and nurture your vulnerable feelings with compassion
- accept that it is ok for you to be you
- identify self harming, addictive behaviour as an attempt to distract yourself from your feelings about your sexuality
- use mindfulness , meditation techniques